Love to relationship....a long way...

Valentines day....a day that reminds us the word "Love"....Where did it go?..yeah the feeling..the honesty...the sincerity?..."Love is a game in which one always cheats." said by Honore de Balzac. But Saint Augustine said that Love is the beauty of the soul. Now a days... Love is hanging between good and bad...it seems like Love is confused...we are confused.I am not going through the history of  saint valentine...but as we are here...we mostly recognize 14th Feb. as a day of love...were people shows love by money....if we cant bring anything nice to someone we love...how can we celebrate v-day? ..thats the basic concept today.When i travel..i see lots of couples...full of love(?)...i see break-ups...huge fights...bad endings as well.I see that lust is taking over Love's home...where things rarely go well...somewhere somehow..someone gets hurt.There are good people who truly believe is love...but many of them end up questioning"why" their love has failed?....if we look around closely....there is very few constant relationships.This happens because people decides a relationship on the basis of  attraction or infatuation..which the mistake as love..because it feels good. Love does not come just like this...love gradually happens. Cheating in love is not a crime in law...so many people are not afraid of this.I see girls n guys cheating their girlfriend/boyfriends everyday....they dont even feel bad later. Back to v-day....what happens in this day ?... some common answers are " we are going out somewhere special"...."I am buying something special for her" ...if someone asks me i can do that any day..why v-day? ....is that proof of love if we do there things on v-day ? Today valentine day exist on a piece of chocolate...or a good restaurant..or a expensive gift. sharing of true feelings is replaced by sharing of money and pleasure which is obviously not spiritual.people always keep options in love(?)..on the basis of  job...wealth or look.I have been to many places...meet many people,now a days....most guys and girls are not ready for a real relationship...,Pleasure is the only feeling the want more than anything in a relationship...and i am not talking about pleasure of mind.Guys decide from a girl's look...how she dresses...which is a wrong thing,girls falls for sweet words or instant charm..Till now almost all guys i have meet told me that they dont want to be serious with one girl..first they want to enjoy...other things comes later..if they come..probably girls thinks the same way..or probably the don't...But one commonly used line guys now a days is " there are plenty of fish in the water...don't worry"...as if having a true relationship is a profession like fishing...on the other hand girls uses"all men are dogs.." ..is if they knows all of them.Many grows up watching movies..expecting love will happen in filmy way....if not they will approach in filmy way....surprisingly this idea from idiot box works sometime...and people makes fool of themselves.
 So all these roadblocks are there in between love to a true relationship...What i wrote are not from my imagination....they are actual story,actual lines i have heard from people...and basically most are negative.In this case,what should one person do if he truly loves or wants to love someone and have a permanent relationship? If someone already loves with trust someone...he/she should be faithful...if the other person does not care...someday,someone will eventually come who actually cares...and for those who wants true love...,stop looking,stop searching...just have faith.
Just remember Murphy's Law : Nice guys(girls) finish last....(I think he was being diplomatic...) but be positive.
                                                                     Cheers  :)

 

we and our mask..

So...back to blog....could not say away for long...just because some negative events..Anyway, So we and our mask is the bubble of thought that occurred to me today while thinking about some people. This is the thing...people don't really change,the just upgrade themselves,hides their real self or shows their real self ,and we think.."hey..he/she has changed"...we actually never did know that person.I understand people...at least some people.I am came in touch with one person...who is actually "good" ...but that person created a mask of a different person to hide the real self, that mask can protect that person from many negative things...but can't protect from own self.I closely observed that person....and the eyes tells a different story. A very soft and kind hearted person when acts tough,dont caring just because the society is negative in some matters...that person becomes someone who ignores many things,even some good things that are in the doorstep. First i thought that that person is rude and heartless....I knew that i was wrong when i saw the eyes. A mask...thats all..A person, who loves to study,write and spend time with pets when dresses different , mixes up with friends not trying to know if that is really a friend or not and goes to places where we temporarily loss ourselves is a sign of the load of a mask which needs a relief sometime. A person who never shows that he/she cries and think nothing is actually someone who should not wear a mask.But world is cruel,some incidents are like this that makes us freeze some of our own self. I have seen people who acts,..i mean literally acts as a different person...just to show that they are able to survive the society.Today we act...tomorrow we act...but what about the day when the masks becomes too heavy to bear ? I guess we don't think about this things much...we just think if we have enough money in future or not. But I feel bad about seeing good people turning into masks and too afraid to come out of it...but thats the way it has to be...they think...and they don't want to change that until it is too late. We never loose ourselves...anything that is true about us,in us...it can be our own self....true love...true friendship...anything.Putting temporary wall between our true self and a mask is not worth anything...be positive...and let the good come :)