lets start with one guy i know, say X....he told me (He was in higher secondary level at that time) that he can do anything for his girlfriend(a very common thing to say...but some people really means it...I came to know later that X really meant it...)..I asked "what about your family? " "I can fight them for her"..he said...His family belongs to high-cast(don't ask :/ ...cast system is still a problem in India)..and hers low cast.One year later when i came in touch with this guy again he was smiling...but i knew that the smile is just a cover up.I came to know that girl dumped him because he did not get in medicine or engineering and she found a guy who was not even close to this guy from any thing ,but reacher than him.That was his first love...and he took the failure very seriously...his thriving nature was gone...but no one knew...because he never showed(I know all this because his nature is like mine and i have known him for a really long time..and still in touch..so i understand his conditions). So X went to a dangerous state of mind..i.e frustration.The guy who never smoked....started smoking(But he realized soon and stopped...Good for him) ...started behaving roughly with his family...ignoring friends because he thought that no one understood him..(In my eyes..his friends actually did not support and understand him at that..they made fun of him...he was almost all alone...I was far at that time so i wasn't much help either)...he could not tell his family because he wasn't allowed to make girlfriend at that age.This all happened because he gave no.1 priority to some outsider who could not love him unconditionally like his family.Here comes Love priority...I am not specifying anyone to give priority to ...But if(although it is the universal truth..still..) your family love you unconditionally..(In case of mothers.thats always true....so always first priority to mom,Here i am talking about the rest of family members)...think about your family with high priority.
Now comes outside world..here we are inside a complex web..every-one good to us feel like our own(Specially when we are in high school and college)...We make friends....some of us fall in love....some of us fail in love....we forget our priority..and go for uncertain things.Most of them never lasts long..In my case...i am in touch with almost no one from high school or college...because almost none of them are seems INTERESTED. We thought(at least i thought) we will be friends forever when we were in high school and college.When i see good friendship since school or college days i feel really good...i always want to experience that friendship...i always feel like joining them..But i guess i am still not that lucky...but i am not sad about that either.It is true...we cant be true friends with everyone..mostly because of the difference in nature...but thats NOT a fixed reason though.But more the similarity we have with someone ,more we get close to them.When we see ourselves in someone...most of the time that turns out as best friends or love..we should never let them go...because they are very hard to get, if love,... your true mirror image is only one.So priority again...will you go for those who only shows that they care...or will you stick with those who really care? Many people fooled by gifts...specially when they are expensive ones...for me the gift of true love and concern for me are the best gifts..because we can buy everything else.I choose to have those people in my life who has this two gifts for me..because i have the same for them...other things i know i can buy myself,when i need them.So one simple line...Give priority to the people true feelings for you.
I remember once having an argument with my dad for a friend(?) just because my dad told me to give priority to my own work instead of his first(this happened almost 8-9 years ago when i was in college)...today i cant go back and say sorry to my dad....but this time when i will go home i will apologize for all of my misbehaves, just because i could not understand the priority of love in my past..it is never too late when you realize your mistakes.Now my friend X tells me if some girl he loves tells him negative things about him parents of advice him to leave his parents..he will definitely leave that girl..no matter how much he loves her...I say now he understand the priority after many years.
My guru Neeraj Sir has a lot of influence on me and my thinking....because what i used to think,he made it clear that i was right.He inspired me to to correct what i had done wrong...and i am going to do it if i am alive till the date i return to home...if not(in case..)...i put that here too..
"I am really sorry Mom,Dad and everyone who truly loves me, for each and every misbehavior,every rough word or anything that hurt you even 1%...I know you never keep those thing in your heart...but I deserve punishments for every negative thing i have done just because i did not understand the priority of love." ~Me
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